Default to believe, then conditioned for stability

When we are young we believe anything. If, like me, you have small children you have already seen this in action. They will believe literally anything. They can believe anything. This inherent naivety or open-mindedness is key to development. Without it, we cannot discover or learn anything new. We need first to be able to […]

Gardening for happiness

A young woman was dissatisfied with her garden. She didn’t find it pretty. One day, she stumbled upon the local garden centre and went inside. Hearing her unhappiness, the garden centre employee proposed: “Why don’t you add some flowers?” So the young lady bought roses and begonias, daffodils to plant and many other varieties of colourful […]

Experimenting with Dice Life

I am always “Dan Steer”. My preferences, habits and “personality” are recognisably quite stable: “Dan Steer”. As I go through life, those things can change. Sometimes slowly and occasionally, or sometimes might I prefer something radically different. I might break an old habit or seem to be happy or sad. But the thin red line […]

What is a surfer? (A cultural inquiry)

“What is a surfer?” This is the question that got me thinking these last two weeks at La Pointe de la Torche. It’s clear that I am not. Not because of inability, but because to be a surfer means more than being able to surf. It is no more the case that everyone able to […]

Boldness, Decision and Action

Look at this picture. What’s wrong with it? Looks tidy, right? Nice Paul McCartney poster? Nobody died.. This is the small room at the bottom of the stairs in my house. Opposite the sofa you can find my guitars. Sometimes I sit and play there. The door goes through to the entrance of the house […]

8 Stress and Anxiety Tips from Tony Stark

It seems that “not doing so well” is fashionable. Everyone is doing it ..even the superheroes!   Last year, it was James Bond in Skyfall: Wallowing in misery and booze and disillusioned with it all, it took a literal blast-from-the-past to eventually force him to face up to his demons and deal with his stress. […]

If you had time to sing one song (a little bit of Sam Phillips inspiration to get awesome)

I just watched “Walk the Line” and these little speech stuck in my mind. Its from the record producer (Sam Phillips) that first gave Johnny Cash a chance to record. Cash had just sung a gospel song that hadn’t impressed Phillips. Phillips encourages him to do better…   Johnny Cash (complaining he hadn’t been given […]

5 Modern Day Stresses To Avoid At All Cost

We live in a fast-moving, ever-changing VUCA world. Stress, depression and burnout symptoms are more apparent than ever before. Our long lives are filled with all sorts of stress. Fortunately, the 5 things listed here are easy to avoid…   STAYING UP LATE LEADS TO SLEEP DEPRIVATION I have a friend who is always staying up late […]

The Surprising Lie About Motivation ?

In the new world of work, we are (supposedly) all free, all mobile, all connected. But is it really true? In his book “Drive”, the author Dan Pink tells us “the surprising truth about motivation”: What really gets us up in the morning is not capitalistic benefits packages, but a search for purpose, mastery and […]

Burnout: Causes, Symptoms and Positive Action

Burnout is the name given for the “breakdown” associated with the experience of long-term exhaustion and diminished interest. It can be considered as the opposite of “flow” and can include a number of different symptoms, although all are related to the temporal inability to manage life properly and a state of extreme exhaustion and dissatisfaction […]