Facing the facts

Yesterday, inspired by my 14-yr-old, I wrote a post called “Facing the Fear”. Today I caught myself posting on Facebook that I was “making up stories in my head”. Then I remembered this quaint little acronym : “FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real”. Meditating on that this morning has been helpful and led me to focus […]

“I can’t” and the amazing truth about us all

We say “I can’t” all the time:  “I can’t come to dinner, because it’s my wife’s birthday.” “I can’t stop smoking. Its too hard.” “I can’t figure out why I’m so tired. I’m just tired.”   But its never true. Every “I can’t” is always an “I don’t want to”:  “I don’t want to come […]

Jim Smith on letting go of your fearful boxes

ATD2015. Session SU304 is underway. Jim Smith says it’s not good enough to think out of the box. We need to get out of the box and act out of the box.  To do that, you need to keep your personal power. You need to be able to be vulnerable enough to be yourself and […]

There’s no respect in tolerance

Tolerance is supposed to be a good thing. The British stiff upper lip demands that we take a deep breath and don’t aggress those who don’t fit our standards. But this is not the same as true respect.Today in training, we have discussed the different things that annoy us and how we deal with them. […]

The no-mind of creativity

The mind being a collection of experience, education and value judgements, it keeps us safe, structured and sure of the world. But it doesn’t help us to be creative, open-minded and fresh. It’s Christmas Day and my brother-in-law is playing the piano. In contrast to my mother-in-law or myself, he has no classical training or […]

The burnout monkey trap

Burnout is getting a lot of press in Belgium these days, given the new legislation stating that employers must do something about it. But what can they do? Isn’t burnout just another monkey trap that needs what Charlie Sheen would call a “blink to cure the brain”?   Having just subscribed for the Epsilon ForumPlus […]