Facing the facts

Yesterday, inspired by my 14-yr-old, I wrote a post called “Facing the Fear”. Today I caught myself posting on Facebook that I was “making up stories in my head”. Then I remembered this quaint little acronym : “FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real”. Meditating on that this morning has been helpful and led me to focus […]

“I can’t” and the amazing truth about us all

We say “I can’t” all the time:  “I can’t come to dinner, because it’s my wife’s birthday.” “I can’t stop smoking. Its too hard.” “I can’t figure out why I’m so tired. I’m just tired.”   But its never true. Every “I can’t” is always an “I don’t want to”:  “I don’t want to come […]

Speaking the truth with non-violent communication

The following is a collection of phrases that I regularly think, say myself or hear other people saying. Some seem positive and some seem negative. But none of them are true. Understanding this and practicing the habit of speaking the truth results from my learning about non-violent communication. Sometimes non-violent communication is about respect towards […]

No more self-employed lazy guilt

As a self-employed person, I have a tendency to work, work, work. But right now, it’s 9.15am and I still haven’t “done anything”. Is this bad?Well, first of all: It is not true. Having gotten up at 6.30, I packed my kids off to school, spent 45 minutes exercising and have since been reading “Zero […]

Jim Smith on letting go of your fearful boxes

ATD2015. Session SU304 is underway. Jim Smith says it’s not good enough to think out of the box. We need to get out of the box and act out of the box.  To do that, you need to keep your personal power. You need to be able to be vulnerable enough to be yourself and […]

There’s no respect in tolerance

Tolerance is supposed to be a good thing. The British stiff upper lip demands that we take a deep breath and don’t aggress those who don’t fit our standards. But this is not the same as true respect.Today in training, we have discussed the different things that annoy us and how we deal with them. […]