Facing the facts

Yesterday, inspired by my 14-yr-old, I wrote a post called “Facing the Fear”. Today I caught myself posting on Facebook that I was “making up stories in my head”. Then I remembered this quaint little acronym : “FEAR is False Evidence Appearing Real”. Meditating on that this morning has been helpful and led me to focus […]

“I can’t” and the amazing truth about us all

We say “I can’t” all the time:  “I can’t come to dinner, because it’s my wife’s birthday.” “I can’t stop smoking. Its too hard.” “I can’t figure out why I’m so tired. I’m just tired.”   But its never true. Every “I can’t” is always an “I don’t want to”:  “I don’t want to come […]

Speaking the truth with non-violent communication

The following is a collection of phrases that I regularly think, say myself or hear other people saying. Some seem positive and some seem negative. But none of them are true. Understanding this and practicing the habit of speaking the truth results from my learning about non-violent communication. Sometimes non-violent communication is about respect towards […]

A 5-step process for handing-over work to other people

We all have things to do. Some of us have lists and lists of things to do. But that doesn’t mean everything on the list should be done by us, ourselves, alone. Before you take any action, slow down, look at your to-do list, and consider the following process for handing-over work to other people… […]

No more self-employed lazy guilt

As a self-employed person, I have a tendency to work, work, work. But right now, it’s 9.15am and I still haven’t “done anything”. Is this bad?Well, first of all: It is not true. Having gotten up at 6.30, I packed my kids off to school, spent 45 minutes exercising and have since been reading “Zero […]